Let’s celebrate the fact that we’re living in the 21st century, an era marked by growing openness about sexuality. Today, people are more candid with family and friends about intimate matters. Surprisingly, a recent study revealed that 65% of women aged 35 and under received their first sex toy from a friend. But how can you be sure if your friend or loved one would appreciate receiving a vibrator as a gift? We’ve compiled a list of dos and don’ts to help you gauge if this is a gift that will leave them buzzing with delight, in the best possible way!
Do:
Trust your instincts
The saying “trust your gut” is a common one for a reason. Before you gift a vibrator, take a moment to consider if you have any reservations about giving this gift to someone. If you’ve had open conversations about intimate matters, shared experiences with sex toys, or have a very close relationship with the person, and you’re confident they’d appreciate it, then this could be a suitable gift. The best approach is to ask them directly. If you have any doubts about giving a vibrator, then that hesitation might be a sign that it’s not the right choice. In that case, you might want to opt for a less intimate gift, such as lotion or fragrance.
Keep it simple
Different individuals have different preferences when it comes to vibrators. When you’re selecting a toy for someone, it’s best to avoid something they might find too intimidating or large. Stick with tried-and-true options like the classic bullet vibrator or a reliable dual-action vibrator. If you’re still unsure about which one to choose, you can offer them the option to pick the one they prefer. While it may no longer be a surprise, you’ll have the satisfaction of knowing they love their gift. There’s nothing better than witnessing the unbridled joy of someone opening a thoughtful present they’ll truly enjoy and use.
Pick the right moment
Imagine the discomfort of unwrapping a vibrator in front of your grandparents during a family gathering. To avoid any awkward situations, select a suitable location and time to present your gift. This is especially crucial if you’re giving your partner a vibrator, as it allows for an intimate moment shared between just the two of you. If the vibrator requires batteries, be sure to include them with the gift. Also, ensure they have a discreet place to keep it if you’ve just spirited them away from a party.
Bonus Tip: If you’re gifting your partner, consider this an opportunity to share a gift that you both can enjoy. Explore something new, like a remote-controlled toy!
Do Not:
Giving a vibrator to a coworker
While you may feel close to your co-workers, presenting them with a vibrator, especially at a work-related event, is a definite no-no. Vibrators are not appropriate gifts for the workplace, period.
Give it as a prank gift
Human sexuality is a serious matter and should not be treated as a joke. There is already a stigma around sexuality, and presenting a vibrator as a “joke” gift only perpetuates this stigma. Yes, giving such a gift should be lighthearted, but it should not be something that brings shame or embarrassment.
Making assumptions about sexual preferences
You might have a favorite toy that you think everyone should own, but each person’s sexuality is unique. What works wonders for one person may not have the same effect on another. If they try a vibrator that gave you an incredible experience but didn’t quite do it for them, don’t take it personally. If you’re unsure which toy to choose for them, consider sending them a helpful quiz or questionnaire.
With these guidelines in mind, you’re well-equipped to have a fantastic holiday season and offer your loved ones gifts that will bring them joy for months and years to come.
